FEELING GUILTY
It's ridiculous the amount of guilt people put on you in everyday life, you may not even realise they're are doing it.
They may guilt you for decisions you make, how you live your life and if you're not at their beck and call.
Guilt is often a coping mechanism for others, for them to feel in control or to sway you the way they want you to go.
It's laughable the amount guilt people put on you in everyday life, you may not even realise people are doing it.
For sensitive people the feeling of guilt can trigger a trauma response, it can eat you up inside, cause anxiety and the feeling of being out of control.
Over time this can really create or bring out a people pleasing side of you.
Why must people guilt others for simply living the life they choose?
As a society we need to release judgement of others and how they live, how another person lives or does things is up to them.
Why must people guilt others for simply living the life they choose.
Making someone feel guilty to achieve a certain objective is toxic behavior and needs to be called out.
It may be the way that person was raised, how their parents made them feel if they didn't do what they wanted or expected, so of course that behaviour can continue through the generations, but it doesn't have to.
Making someone feel guilty to achieve a certain objective is toxic behavior and needs to be called out.
You should feel empowered in your life to make your own decisions and live the life you choose and not allow someone to change you or your decisions for their own benefit or what they expect from you.
How do you combat people making you feel guilty?
No one wants you to be a 'nag' and unfortunately they absolutely don't want to be called out for their behaviour but something has to be said if it's happening time and time again.
It may feel very daunting to speak up and call someone out for their behaviour.
A good way to set a boundary with this is to say clearly "You are making me feel guilty, I don't have to justify to you why, I ask that you respect my decision." or something along those lines.
Setting boundaries is super important and if someone continues to guilt you even after you've spoken to them about it, either stop spending time with them completely or at least limit your exposure to them.
It may feel very daunting to speak up and call someone out for their behaviour.
Understand others constantly make you feeling guilty weighs you down and creates things like emotional exhaustion and burnout.
If it's affecting you, it's not something you have to deal with and taking a stand is an important part of your growth and evolution as an adult.